Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

How can I help people


How can I help people with their problems other than the crisis hotline?


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Hi Amanda.  Thanks for showing your concern and desire to help LGBTQ youth in need.  While it is not clear what manner of problems you seek to help others address, we will share some resources to keep in mind below.  As always, counselors are available 24/7 on the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor and they can help you or youth in crisis determine the most appropriate resources and assistance given a specific issue.

Likewise, LGBT youth should be encouraged to participate in Trevorspace at www.trevorspace.org  the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It’s a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might have had or are having the same questions that you’re having about your sexuality/gender identity.

If the issue involves sexual abuse, suggest calling the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) or the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE.

If the issue involves coming out, you might find the Human Rights Campaign’s “Resource Guide to Coming Out” at http://www.hrc.org/documents/resourceguide_co.pdf helpful. In addition, on http://www.amplifyyourvoice.org/youthresource/comingoutquestions  you’ll find an article called “Coming Out to Your Parents: Questions to Think About” which may be of help to you.

If the issue involves questions about sexual orientation, on http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=177  you’ll find the brochure “I Think I Might Be Lesbian…Now What Do I Do?” which may help with questions about sexuality. On http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=726&Itemid=336 you’ll find the brochure “I Think I Might Be Gay…Now What Do I Do?”  On www.bisexual.org you’ll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then “Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG” you can find information that may help. On http://www.transyouth.com/I%20think%20I%20may%20transgender.pdf, you’ll find the brochure, “I Think I Might Be Transgender…Now What Do I Do?” PFLAG’s (Parents, Families & Friends Of Lesbians & Gays) “Be Yourself: Questions for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth” at http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Be_Yourself_TT.pdf can be of further help as one tries to understand one’s sexual orientation/gender identity.

Again, thanks for contacting Ask Trevor and for showing concern for the well-being of LGBTQ youth.

Trevor Staff