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How do I tell if I like a guy, Or even tell him I like him


Well I thought I liked this guy but in realityI dont know how do I tell I really like him?

Thank You

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Hi Ericha,

Thank you so very much for writing us. It takes a ton of courage to even question one’s self, and the fact that you took it a step further and wrote in to us is a huge step in the right direction.

First and foremost, perhaps it’d be best to be sure of your own feelings before telling said guy. It may seem like it’d be easier to just go ahead and tell him right away, but being sure of yourself first will help you feel more confident and self-assured, so that when you do tell him you’ll know it’s coming from the heart. Once you do decide how you feel, tell him in a time that feels comfortable to you both. There isn’t any “right” time, just one that works for you.

It sounds like you’re doing your best to be wiseabout all of this, which is wonderful, and again, I admire you more than I can say for reaching out to us here at the Trevor Project. If you feel like you need someone else to talk to, I always recommend http://www.trevorspace.org, where you’ll find tons of other people your age going through very similar things. We really are all in this together, and we certainly have your back! We believe in you, even on the days when you don’t believe in yourself.

All the best,

- The Trevor Project
Trevor Staff