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My name is David, and I am a gay teen in Iowa, I have a crush on this boy at school, he is also gay. we often have moments when we try to talk to each other, but neither of us knows what to say. I am a senior, and this may be my last chance at love, ho do we share our feelings with each other?
“Breaking the ice” can be one of the most difficult parts of dating. So, you are not alone in wondering how to approach your crush. From your letter, it sounds like there is mutual interest. Sometimes making conversation begins as a mechanical process. But, once the ice is broken, you may find conversation becoming easier. With familiarity, talking to one another may become easier.
Do you have anything in common? Any classes, any hobbies, favorite TV shows, favorite music? These are good places to start. You can start with some trivial things. You could make some simple observations. “That is a cool shirt.” If he is holding some books, you could ask about the class. “Hey, how is Biology?” SImple questions or topics will serve as a bridge.
You could simply ask to share an activity. “Wanna go see a movie?” “Wanna go grab a burger?” Sometimes, there is a lot of pressure to “go on a date”. A date is really an opportunity to get to know someone a little bit better. As you get to know each other, you will discover common interests. Those are the things that will provide opportunities to spend time together. As you spend time together, you will get a better sense of each other. Developing a friendship will provide a good foundation for a possible romance.
Trevorspace, at www.trevorspace.org, is the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It’s a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might have had or are having the same questions that you’re having about dating. You may be able to get some more ideas from some peers.
And, if all else fails, just smile. That will communicate your interest. Good Luck!!!!