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I am interested in being a public speaker


Dear Trevor,
My name is Emily Luther and I am an out lesbian. I have been out for about two years now and have gone through problems. I am interested in being a public speaker for lesbians, gays, and bisexuals, also for teens that are confused on their thoughts about it. Is it possible for that to happen at my age?


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It’s exciting to hear from someone your age who wants to help others who are confused about their sexuality.  It’s a great way to practice an important skill you’ll need in the workforce while having an exciting time affirming who you are and what you believe.  And yes it is definitely possible to be a LGBT public speaker and/or advocate at any age!

While I am not familiar with your specific community you may want to reach out to LGBT community groups at local colleges or a Gay Straight Alliance at your school if one exists.  If one doesn’t exist, I’d suggest reaching out to a trusted teacher or administrator at your school who might be able to start one or guide you in the right direction.

In addition, I would definitely encourage you to log on to Trevor Space – www.trevorspace.org.  It’s the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site where you can connect with others and assist others who may be having difficulty.  While technically not public speaking, it does give you the opportunity to share your experiences and help others in what can be a very difficult and challenging process.  I wish you the best of luck with helping others in this endeavor and stay strong!


The Trevor Project