Hi. I’m cody and I’m in high school but I dont feel right about something. I dont know what it is. It’s like there is someting missing, like I want to do all of this stuff in my school, but I’m afraid what people will think and what people would do. I’m afraid if I do these things and they dont like the way I do something or support something that I’m going to be left by myself, alone, scared. For example, I love to wear scarves, I wear them all the time when I’m out with friends ( the few i have) and when I’m out with family, but when I go to school I don’t wear them because I’m afraid that people will start things with me and make me feel like an outcast. I’m afraid that my friends won’t want to be around me. Should I wear this stuff to school or not? I really dont know. I’m confused. I didn’t know life would be so confusing, but if you can help it would be great. ~cody <3
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Thank you for reaching out to us here at AskTrevor. It is ok to ask questions about what is right for you Cody. It is always a scary thing to do something if you are not sure how people will react.
People sometimes feel that making fun of someone makes them feel better about themselves. Most of the time it is them hiding from their own fears. There are also people out there who will love you and support you no matter what; People who are willing to listen and hear what you have to say and talk about things you want to do. It is important for you to know that there are places and people around you and here at The Trevor Project that you should feel comfortable talking too. A councelor at your school is a great place to look for someone who you can feel comfortable talking to in person. Like every decision in life, even the scary ones, your choice is ultimately up to you and I would encourage you to do what you feel is right. I always feel that it is great to get other peoples opinions so you get to see a situation form different viewpoints. They might think of things that you have not thought about and it could lead to you coming up with a new idea on your own!
You are also welcome to join our Trevor Space where people just like you have a chance to chat with each other. You’d be surprised how many people have similar fears and questions! We offer some advice and words of comfort in our Ask Trevor letters, but your peers also have many helpful words for each other. We’re all about support and safety of our friends out there.
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