Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

ATTENTION!
Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

I don’t know why I did it, but I did

Question:

The other day I was getting a bath and I was laying in the water with my eyes closed thinking about everything. I got really worked up about a few of the things and started to get upset. I looked at the water then slowly put myself under the water totally. I stayed under the water for as long as I could, until I couldn’t breathe, plus sometime longer. I didn’t want to be here anymore. But I got scared and got out quickly. I have so many things on my mind. The way I look, the way people treat me for the way I look, and a lot of other things. I’ve thought about giving up before, but never really tried it until the other day. Now I am just scared, and I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Answer:

Hello,

Thank you for writing in about how you feel. That is the first and best step you could have taken. No matter how tough life may seem, you need to know that your not alone. There are people that care about you, just the way that you are. The first thing you should do is talk with a trusted adult immediately to discuss the feelings you are having. This trusted adult might be a parent, relative, teacher, school counselor, or a doctor. You know if there is no one you feel you can trust talking to about your feelings you can always call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor, 24 Hours a day, 7 days a week. There will be someone there you can trust to talk about your feelings.

If you ever feel like acting on your thoughts of harming yourself you need to call 911, or go to your hospital emergency room in order to be safe.

It is best when you have so many thoughts on your mind to talk about them with a trusted adult, that way the both of your can discuss them and come up with ways to work on them so they are not bothering you anymore.

There is help for you; here are some resources you may want to consider. ReachOut.com has resources that will help you get help about how to cope with your thoughts, you can visit them here: http://us.reachout.com Another resource you could consider is: http://www.glsen.org

Just remember no matter what there is someone out there willing to listen to you and who cares about you. If you have anymore questions please write in again, call the Trevor Lifeline, or try Trevor Chat, either way, we are here for you no matter what.

Sincerely,

Trevor