Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

ATTENTION!
Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

i love you guys

Question:

hiii!! well i just heard of this, and i absoloutly love it! its brilliant. i used to cut, but i soon joined a cheer team. all those girls made me realize how string and beautiful i was. i slowely started to not cut anymore and im 1 year clean!!! and i mean this whole thing just sounds amazing and i would love to help others in need, because i know what it feels like and i dont think anything sounds better than helping others with serious issues with themselves!

Answer:

We are so happy that you have connected with us at the Trevor Project! Congratulations to you for being clean for a whole year—that is fantastic news and we commend you on your hard work and self care!

We understand that although cutting can sometimes temporarily take away incredible stress, in the long run it can lead to serious complications. We also understand how difficult it is to stop cutting, so in every way, congratulations to you!

What the girls on the cheer team have done for you is a true gift of friendship. True friends build one another up with love, kindness, encouragement, and truth. You are a strong and beautiful person, and we are so happy that your friends helped you to see that!

And when someone receives a gift that builds them up and changes them, often they want to share it—just like you. And you can share love, kindness, encouragement, and truth with those around you who are in need of true friendship. Trevor Space (www.trevorspace.org) is a great supportive community of LGBTQ youth ranging in age from 13 to 24 where you can connect with others who have had similar struggles. There are many others out there who can benefit from the gift of friendship and encouragement that you received. Giving back is often a wonderful way to not only take care of others, but take care of ourselves.

We would like to continue to be connected with you. We are here 24/7 online (www.thetrevorproject.org) and by phone (1-866-4-U-TREVOR, 1-866-488-7386), so please reach out! We are here for you, today, and into the future, as you continue your journey and help others along the way too.

Trevor Staff