Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

I need help


I really need to see how successful this option is for helping gay teens and would like more information before I call. I’m just nervous that someone might find out that I need this information which is why i wrote a letter instead of calling.




I’m so glad you’ve taken the first step and reached out to us. Here at the Trevor Project, we know how important it is to feel safe before speaking to anyone about feelings and questions of a sexual nature. Supportive answers for anyone with these types of questions is vital to the work we do. I wanted to praise you for sending us a letter to share your thoughts. Hopefully I can provide a bit more information so that you feel comfortable if and when you choose to call.

Please keep in mind that you’re not alone even if it feels like you might be sometimes. We like to remind people that questioning sexual orientation is a natural and normal process. We receive calls and letters from young people every day with similar thoughts and feelings. Our volunteers go through a lengthy training process to learn how best to help those people that choose to call. All of our volunteers will work hard to help answer your questions.

It might be easier for you to take a look at a few of our resources available online. You can do this whenever and wherever you feel comfortable. The Trevor Project’s “Coming Out As YOU” guide could be helpful and can be found here: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/section/YOU. I also wanted to mention TrevorSpace. TrevorSpace is a great place for support and help with the types of questions and thoughts you’re having. TrevorSpace (at www.trevorspace.org) is the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site. It’s a great community where you can connect with others your age who might have had or are having the same questions that you do- without the same pressure as a phone call. I think TrevorSpace would be a great place for you to start!

We’d be happy to have you call us too. The Trevor Lifeline is available 24/7 at 1-866-4-U-Trevor if you want to talk about the questions you’re having. Feel free to write to us again if that’s easier for you. If you have specific questions, we’d be happy to give you the answers you need in the way that’s most comfortable for you!