Welcome to Ask Trevor

Ask Trevor is an online question and answer resource for young people who have questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.

On September 1st, Ask Trevor will be transitioning to become a broader more effective resource for LGBTQ young people and their allies. This means we will no longer be accepting incoming letters starting on Tuesday, September 2nd. However, if you send us a letter before September 2nd, you will receive a response. Please note that your wait time may be longer than usual. In the meantime, please continue to browse through our extensive library of previously answered letters, and stay tuned for what’s coming next!

If you are feeling suicidal, or need to talk to someone right away, please call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. It’s available 24/7, 365 days a year. You can also chat with a Trevor counselor at Trvr.org/Chat from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. ET.

Please note: If you live outside of the United States and need to talk to someone, please seek help at the nearest emergency room or check out the following international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

You are never alone. Thank you for reaching out to The Trevor Project for support!

I need help

Question:

I really need to see how successful this option is for helping gay teens and would like more information before I call. I’m just nervous that someone might find out that I need this information which is why i wrote a letter instead of calling.

 

Answer:

 

I’m so glad you’ve taken the first step and reached out to us. Here at the Trevor Project, we know how important it is to feel safe before speaking to anyone about feelings and questions of a sexual nature. Supportive answers for anyone with these types of questions is vital to the work we do. I wanted to praise you for sending us a letter to share your thoughts. Hopefully I can provide a bit more information so that you feel comfortable if and when you choose to call.

Please keep in mind that you’re not alone even if it feels like you might be sometimes. We like to remind people that questioning sexual orientation is a natural and normal process. We receive calls and letters from young people every day with similar thoughts and feelings. Our volunteers go through a lengthy training process to learn how best to help those people that choose to call. All of our volunteers will work hard to help answer your questions.

It might be easier for you to take a look at a few of our resources available online. You can do this whenever and wherever you feel comfortable. The Trevor Project’s “Coming Out As YOU” guide could be helpful and can be found here: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/section/YOU. I also wanted to mention TrevorSpace. TrevorSpace is a great place for support and help with the types of questions and thoughts you’re having. TrevorSpace (at www.trevorspace.org) is the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site. It’s a great community where you can connect with others your age who might have had or are having the same questions that you do- without the same pressure as a phone call. I think TrevorSpace would be a great place for you to start!

We’d be happy to have you call us too. The Trevor Lifeline is available 24/7 at 1-866-4-U-Trevor if you want to talk about the questions you’re having. Feel free to write to us again if that’s easier for you. If you have specific questions, we’d be happy to give you the answers you need in the way that’s most comfortable for you!