Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

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I want to be an Activist


My name is Eric, I been bullied my entire life. In May of this year I stood on the school balcony wanting to take my own life. I have a business plan for a suicide prevention program, but I am all alone with no one helping me. I don’t know where to start.



Hi Eric:


Let me begin by telling you that you are amazing, strong and the planet is a better place all ready because you are in it. Your letter tells me you have been bullied to the point that you contemplated taking you own life. You now have a business plan for a suicide prevention program but you’re not sure where to start and you feel you’re all alone.

There are some varied groups and support sites that offer help to those who consider suicide their only way out of what they feel about themselves and the things that are happening to them. The Trevor Project is one such place. Have you tried talking to your school counselor about your idea? Maybe you could start out volunteering for one of the groups in your area. If you are 18 years old look into volunteering with The Trevor Project. You can check with PFLAG in your area their web address is http://capwiz.com/pflag/officials/locality/?entity_id=7157&sortby=name.   Perhaps someone there would be able to give you some ideas on where to start.

In your letter you said you were alone with no one to help you with your idea. At the Trevor Project no one is ever alone. We are here for you. Check out TrevorSpace at www.trevorspace.org. It’s the Trevor Project’s safe, online networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It’s a great place to connect with people that you would be able to relate to and possibly bounce ideas around with. You can even write back to AskTrevor. If you ever get to a point where things seem overwhelming there is always the Trevor lifeline at 1 866-4-U-Trevor, 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Good luck with your business plan.