Welcome to Ask Trevor

Ask Trevor is an online question and answer resource for young people who have questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.

On September 1st, Ask Trevor will be transitioning to become a broader more effective resource for LGBTQ young people and their allies. This means we will no longer be accepting incoming letters starting on Tuesday, September 2nd. However, if you send us a letter before September 2nd, you will receive a response. Please note that your wait time may be longer than usual. In the meantime, please continue to browse through our extensive library of previously answered letters, and stay tuned for what’s coming next!

If you are feeling suicidal, or need to talk to someone right away, please call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. It’s available 24/7, 365 days a year. You can also chat with a Trevor counselor at Trvr.org/Chat from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. ET.

Please note: If you live outside of the United States and need to talk to someone, please seek help at the nearest emergency room or check out the following international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

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I want to be an Activist


My name is Eric, I been bullied my entire life. In May of this year I stood on the school balcony wanting to take my own life. I have a business plan for a suicide prevention program, but I am all alone with no one helping me. I don’t know where to start.



Hi Eric:


Let me begin by telling you that you are amazing, strong and the planet is a better place all ready because you are in it. Your letter tells me you have been bullied to the point that you contemplated taking you own life. You now have a business plan for a suicide prevention program but you’re not sure where to start and you feel you’re all alone.

There are some varied groups and support sites that offer help to those who consider suicide their only way out of what they feel about themselves and the things that are happening to them. The Trevor Project is one such place. Have you tried talking to your school counselor about your idea? Maybe you could start out volunteering for one of the groups in your area. If you are 18 years old look into volunteering with The Trevor Project. You can check with PFLAG in your area their web address is http://capwiz.com/pflag/officials/locality/?entity_id=7157&sortby=name.   Perhaps someone there would be able to give you some ideas on where to start.

In your letter you said you were alone with no one to help you with your idea. At the Trevor Project no one is ever alone. We are here for you. Check out TrevorSpace at www.trevorspace.org. It’s the Trevor Project’s safe, online networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It’s a great place to connect with people that you would be able to relate to and possibly bounce ideas around with. You can even write back to AskTrevor. If you ever get to a point where things seem overwhelming there is always the Trevor lifeline at 1 866-4-U-Trevor, 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Good luck with your business plan.