Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

I Want to Help Others


Dear Trevor,

I apologize for the category choices, but I’m not out to anyone, and I couldn’t really find anything else that fit.
That said, I was wondering. is there anywhere to tell my story on the Internet where it can be read by other people? I’ve been through suicide and depression and loneliness and all that stuff, and I want to tell other people about how I got through that.
I haven’t worked everything out, and my story isn’t “over”, but what I can say may make a difference. And I want nothing more than to make a difference. Thank you.

Live Long And Prosper

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Hi Christine. No need to apologize! We’re happy to hear from anyone interested in helping others by telling their story! This can be a very powerful way to let people know there are others who have gone through the same thing and have made it through the tough times. It sounds like you have a lot to tell about your experiences! From all of us at the TrevorProject, we applaud you and thank you for your desire to give back!

Since it sounds like you would feel most comfortable telling your story online, I wanted to let you know about one of our programs called TrevorSpace. TrevorSpace is a powerful resource that provides support for LGBTQ youth and allies. It is a very welcoming and safe community for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24, their friends, and their allies. You would be able to reach out to others on TrevorSpace who may be struggling with a lot of different issues relating to sexual orientation and gender identity. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to take a look at TrevorSpace by following this link: http://www.trevorspace.org.

There are other online communities that may be of interest to you too. Many national organizations have local or state chapters that offer volunteer opportunities. While these opportunities may not be exactly what you’re looking for, it wouldn’t hurt to take a look at their websites to see if you might be interested in offering your help to them. It sounds like your experiences would be valuable to any organization! Here are just a few: Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) at: http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=211, Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) at: http://www.glsen.org/ & the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) at: http://www.afsp.org/get-involved. A nearby college or university may have more local options for you too.

I wish you the best of luck with helping others! If you have any other questions or if things ever get challenging for you again, remember that we are here for you! You can always call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor, or contact us through TrevorChat or on TrevorSpace.

Trevor Staff