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I Want to Help Others


Dear Trevor,

I apologize for the category choices, but I’m not out to anyone, and I couldn’t really find anything else that fit.
That said, I was wondering. is there anywhere to tell my story on the Internet where it can be read by other people? I’ve been through suicide and depression and loneliness and all that stuff, and I want to tell other people about how I got through that.
I haven’t worked everything out, and my story isn’t “over”, but what I can say may make a difference. And I want nothing more than to make a difference. Thank you.

Live Long And Prosper

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Hi Christine. No need to apologize! We’re happy to hear from anyone interested in helping others by telling their story! This can be a very powerful way to let people know there are others who have gone through the same thing and have made it through the tough times. It sounds like you have a lot to tell about your experiences! From all of us at the TrevorProject, we applaud you and thank you for your desire to give back!

Since it sounds like you would feel most comfortable telling your story online, I wanted to let you know about one of our programs called TrevorSpace. TrevorSpace is a powerful resource that provides support for LGBTQ youth and allies. It is a very welcoming and safe community for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24, their friends, and their allies. You would be able to reach out to others on TrevorSpace who may be struggling with a lot of different issues relating to sexual orientation and gender identity. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to take a look at TrevorSpace by following this link: http://www.trevorspace.org.

There are other online communities that may be of interest to you too. Many national organizations have local or state chapters that offer volunteer opportunities. While these opportunities may not be exactly what you’re looking for, it wouldn’t hurt to take a look at their websites to see if you might be interested in offering your help to them. It sounds like your experiences would be valuable to any organization! Here are just a few: Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) at: http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=211, Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) at: http://www.glsen.org/ & the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) at: http://www.afsp.org/get-involved. A nearby college or university may have more local options for you too.

I wish you the best of luck with helping others! If you have any other questions or if things ever get challenging for you again, remember that we are here for you! You can always call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor, or contact us through TrevorChat or on TrevorSpace.

Trevor Staff