Welcome to Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor
Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

ATTENTION!
Before submitting a letter, please be aware that letters are experiencing a longer than normal wait period. If you are in immediate crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386.
All calls are confidential and toll-free from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone.

You can also access TrevorChat, our crisis chat service, at: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now available 7 days a week from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Eastern.

Please note: If you reside outside the United States and you are currently in crisis or suicidal, you will not be able to access The Trevor Lifeline or TrevorChat. If you are outside of the U.S. and need to talk to someone immediately, please see the following link to international hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html. If you are suicidal, please seek help at the nearest emergency room.

Your letters are very important to us and all letters will be reviewed and responded to in the near future.

Hope you are having a great summer!

Is this site just for LGBT kids?

Question:

I am wondering if this site is just for LGBT people because even though I am not any of those, I do have problems with depression and with people just not accepting me even though I am making the best effort I can to be friends with them. Also the factor of people telling me that I am lying when I tell them I don’t have friends and they just smile at me as if I am just being silly. When indeed it is true.

Answer:

Dear Jennihawk,
While Ask Trevor specializes and focuses on lgbtq youth, there is room for everyone. You do not have to be lgbtq to feel lonely, have trouble making friends, or be depressed. 14 years old is a rough time for everyone and we could all use a little help sometimes. Making friends can also be a challenge, but stick with it and try to be patient. It might be easier if you started by getting involved in activities you are interested in. This will give you some similar interests and something to talk about. It must be hard to hear people trivialize how hard making friends is by thinking you’re being silly but don’t let it bother you and know it is not just you being silly. It is a difficult subject and those probably don’t know what to say. Finally, depression is a medical issue, meaning it is something a doctor can help you with. Is there a trusted adult you can talk with about this? A parent, a relative, a teacher, a guidance councilor, or even your doctor would all work. You can look at http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001941/or http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression/what-is-depression.shtml to find more information.

Trevor Staff