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Question:

Good Afternoon,

I am deaf and gay but need help. I depend on email or text message but for now email. I am having some issues with my future and my life. This is my first time I ever come to this Trevor Project since I heard about it for while. I didn’t know where to turn to or ask for help. I am having some issues with financial situation that someone tried to convince me to give him the money that I never met but chat through on-line. I recently tried to hurt myself but I didn’t. This is why I need some help and coaching with me for while until I recover. I don’t have enough money to give since I mentioned about financial situation.

Right now, I am currently living in Wilmington, Delaware and work for a company now. If you don’t mind email to me, what can I do and how can I afford to get a help? I just need to talk with someone who is open minded than close minded. I don’t mind if it is a male or female as long as I can understand the conversation. I do read lips and hear the same time while we are talking.

Looking forward to hear from you soon of whom can I talk with.

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Answer:

 

Hi,

 

We’re so glad you reached out and wrote to tell us of your problems. There is help for you, but you just need to know where to find it, and that is something with which we’ll try to assist you. We’re also glad that you didn’t go through with hurting yourself, as you are a valuable member of this human species, and we care about you.  Everyone needs help from time to time, so don’t feel badly about needing assistance. It’s something that just comes with being human. It’s just that you’re having some hard times right now, and understandably that hurts. But you don’t have to go through it alone, as we’re here for you.

 

Also, please realize that while most people are decent, there are a few unscrupulous individuals out there who will try to take advantage of you, like the one who tried to get money from you. They don’t care about you, only your money. So never give anyone money if you don’t owe them something, unless it’s for purposes of charity,and even then make sure it’s a legitimate charity AND that you only give what you can afford to spare. And make sure it’s due to YOUR desire, not theirs. Con artists can easily put you in dire financial straits if you let them, and they are skilled at peddling their lies. And sadly, anybody can be taken in by them, so be wary when someone asks for money. Plead poverty!

 

As to your present situation, there are agencies listed in the front of any phone book that can help you with your financial and other problems. There are government agencies, and even churches who specialize in such situations, and they are accustomed to dealing with deaf people. Some have TTY lines just for their deaf patrons, but all of them will be happy to assist you or at least point you in the right direction. Two church denominations which are particularly gay-friendly are the Universal Unitarians (UU churches) and the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches (UFMCC). And all of the government agencies and the churches operate their services for free.

 

For support from the gay community, try TrevorChat and TrevorText, both available from our main web page. They are great sources for talking with other like-minded people about your problems, and getting great advice from others, and both are online sources available any time.

 

Sure, life can be a struggle at times. But with resources like these at your fingertips, it’s possible for you to make a great future for yourself. Because life is worth the effort. And do write back and let us know you make out. We’d love to hear from you again.

Trevor Staff