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Suicide Prevention Idea

Question:

Upon one of my best friend’s attempt to suicide, I have concluded to join in to put an end to suicide. I want to spread to the world, to people of all ages, all ethnicity, all religions, all sexual preferences, and to all genders that suicide is not the answer.

My name is Lauren Bell. I am 15 years old. I attend Jordan High School as a freshman in the state of Utah. As one of the small amount of people, I have faced rejection and cruelty by people of a common religion here. And because of this, I have in fact felt the pressure of suicide and medications and social anxiety and everything. As one of many, I can say that I made it through all of that. My goal is to pull an even larger amount of people up mentally to be able to say we. made. it.

My friends are dying. My friends are being taken from me. They are being dragged into the grasp of suicide.

As youth, we are aware of our teachers telling us to stand up to bullying. And that there is another way to escape the jaws of depression. But we can all agree that our elders do not entirely understand. They may remember being a teenager, but are they living in today’s society, whilst attending a giant building we call “school” and rushing hormones, growing pains, developing minds, mounds of homework, and staying mentally and physically healthy. As teenagers, the first people we talk to about our problems is each other. And as a part of this, I would like to start taking this to my advantage. I want to show people that it is possible to achieve happiness. And coming from a peer, i hope it will reach people’s minds and change the world.

In order to do this, I am going to talk to my school administration about having an assembly, which I will run with the help of a chosen teacher. I want to get a big group of youth of all ages, religions, sexuality, ethnicity, physical appearance, etc. I want us all to stand up and defeat suicide, and I would like your help.

 

Answer:

 

Lauren,

Wow! Your letter blew me away. I can’t believe the amazing compassion, strength, wisdom, and determination that you possess. You are seeing the world in a way many grown adults will never even be able. You also share the same common passion that we here at the Trevor Project share, the desire to support and help youth going through a suicidal crisis or struggling with depression. There is a great stigma in our society with suicide and depression. People don’t like to talk about it and that is exactly what they need to be doing, talking about it!

It was a great idea of yours to get a group started at your school to promote suicide awareness and to encourage support and friendship to those who may be suffering with suicidal thoughts or attempts. Give out the Trevor Lifeline number (1-866-488-7386) for those who might find themselves in crisis and needing help or just someone to talk to. Also recommend www.trevorspace.org where they can meet and interact with other youth going through similar issues and share stories, offer support, and make friendships. Lastly visit this link to check out the Trevor Project’s Lifeguard Workshop (http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/request-a-workshop) where you can order a Lifeguard Workshop DVD and even request an in-person workshop for your school!

Utilizing these resources and working to create a support group at your school will be such a valuable asset to your community Lauren. I really have to commend you for the lengths you are willing to go to help your friends and those struggling with suicide and depression. Thank you for helping others and making the world a better place. The future is in good hands with you and others like you in your generation!

Best,
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