Ask Trevor

Welcome to Ask Trevor

Ask Trevor is an online question and answer resource for young people who have questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.

On September 1st, Ask Trevor will be transitioning to become a broader more effective resource for LGBTQ young people and their allies. This means we will no longer be accepting incoming letters starting on Tuesday, September 2nd. However, if you send us a letter before September 2nd, you will receive a response. Please note that your wait time may be longer than usual. In the meantime, please continue to browse through our extensive library of previously answered letters, and stay tuned for what’s coming next!

If you are feeling suicidal, or need to talk to someone right away, please call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. It’s available 24/7, 365 days a year. You can also chat with a Trevor counselor at from 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT / 3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. ET.

Please note: If you live outside of the United States and need to talk to someone, please seek help at the nearest emergency room or check out the following international hotlines:

You are never alone. Thank you for reaching out to The Trevor Project for support!

Thank you


I would like to formally and informally thank the Trevor Project, Team, Staff, and everyone in between for all the support and amazing answers to all my questions. You have really helped me through something that has been on my mind for years now so I can’t thank you enough. I come here and I can see that not only can I be myself but I know I’m not alone in this. I know I’ll have more questions and concerns but coming here just makes me safe. Again, thanks.




Dear Writer,

Thank you for your… thank you!

It’s so great to hear that you view Trevor’s different outreach tools as a place to feel open and supported. There are definitely a lot of us who have struggled in regards to our LGBTQ identities.

Please keep your questions and concerns coming – we always are listening and ready to hear you.

Thanks again for your appreciation, and we appreciate you for being true to yourself.

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