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Ask Trevor is an online, non-time sensitive question and answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity. Browse the published letters or submit your own letter.

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Wanting to help

Question:

Hi I am Maya. I am not LGBTQ but I support the community. I am 15 but I really want to help. I see how hard it is for LGBTQ people and it saddens me knowing what they go through. I want to help but I’m afraid I am too young to help but still, can I do something for Trevor? I would love to help. I already help out my gay friends here at school and they should help out for Trevor. I love how this helps LGBTQ people. They know people are out there helping them and that’s what I want to do. How can I help? I can’t make a GSA or LGBTQ club here at school because I know people will be more homophobic and bully them more. I see homophobia every day. My grandfather is homophobic and that is not fair. My family is religious and they are against LGBTQ people and they don’t listen to what I have to say. I know it’s wrong for them. I try but can’t open their eyes. It breaks my heart. So how may I help out?

Letter submitted by: Maya

Answer:

Hello Maya,

It is great to hear that you are an ally of the LGBTQ community. The more allies we have, the merrier! First and foremost, you can always start by being a supportive ally to the LGBTQ community. Being an ally means being an essential participant who can make a huge difference simply by letting others know that you support your LGBT friends, community and your peers. That alone can make a huge difference for LGBTQ individuals.

Because you are under the age of eighteen, you may want to consider Youth Advisory Council at Trevor Project. Please be mindful that a permission form must be completed.

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/youth-advisory-council/

Most volunteering positions at Trevor Project require individuals to be at least 18 years old. However, don’t fret! You can start by helping out in your community. You may want to consider something broader first. For instance, perhaps you can set up anti-bullying awareness week. There is this great website that can really benefit your school if you witness homophobia and bullying. You may want to discuss with school staff or teacher that you can trust and share your ideas. I believe you will most likely need to make a proposal to your principal. Having a school staff or teacher by your side can help.

http://www.nonamecallingweek.org/cgi-bin/iowa/home.html

According to the website, the next No-Name Calling Week will take place from January 20 to January 24, 2014. If you start now, you can throw a great campaign.

Aforementioned, most volunteering positions require individuals to be at least 18 of age. Please don’t let this stop you from seeking possible volunteering positions in your local area. Like I said, being an ally will always make a huge difference for LGBTQ individuals. Strike up a conversation with your LGBTQ peers. Lend them an ear if they need to talk. Show support and equality. Make yourself be known within the LGBTQ community.

Thank you for reaching out to Trevor Project. We’re always here for you, every day and all day.

Trevor Staff